Don't Get Stuck

There is a difference between choosing to feel every emotion + grieving in a healthy way + making no emotions off limits and being self-indulgent.

We feel the emotions, we process them, yes! But we also need to remember that we are more than the sum of our emotions. We have control over them, they do not control us.

When a part of us feels negative emotions we should honor that part and feel that emotion but we CANNOT get stuck there and be consumed by it.

We can listen and observe by considering what that emotion is telling us. Our emotions can teach us and inform us but they should not control us.

In honesty to ourself and whatever the emotion is, we acknowledge it but then we must move through it to a place of wholeness and goodness.

Grieving in a healthy way is actively working towards health and healing. It’s not aimlessly wallowing in the muck but rather it's a proactive acknowledging of the pain/disappointment, then allowing it to be cleansed from our weary hearts. It’s a cycle that’s repeated over and over.

Grief comes in waves. No matter how large or small the wave. We must keep embracing the waves of pain and because with them also come waves of healing. Embrace both - they go hand in hand. You can’t have healing if you don’t acknowledge the pain. If you only acknowledge the pain you can’t have healing.

Keep moving forward.

Let’s do it together.

You can’t fight an army of emotions as a lone soldier. Ask for help. Accept help. Don’t get stuck. It’s tempting to get stuck. It’s easier to get stuck. But you have the power to choose whether you want to remain stuck or not. You hold that power, grief does not.

Hope is a choice.

Just like faith is a choice and love is a choice. ⁠ ⁠

"Blessed are those whose strength comes from the Lord, who have set their minds on pilgrimage (not getting stuck). For when they walk THROUGH the valley of weeping it will become a place of refreshing, where pools of blessing collect after the rains. They will continue to grow stronger." - Psalm 84:5-7